So what I am seeing is that the kids really want the opportunity to heal themselves. They seem to have a grasp about where their parents are. They really are demonstrating that we can self heal, given the right environment. What a wonderful demonstration.
When I was teaching parenting classes was to teach the parents that what kids really wanted and needed is to have the environment where its safe to make a mistake, its safe to experiment with who they are. Kids do want limits as small children, it gives them a sense of safety. The kids actually get the message you care enough to set a limit. With so many kids today this isn't happening. Parents don't know how to create a safe environment. The parents think that if they give the kids everything they want that it will create the safety, so that they love them.
I don't know where I am going with all of this...
So much of it is holding the space for the kids to figure it out. We have to give them the opportunity to figure it out.
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